Show Notes

Today I spoke to Rebecca Undem: Author, Speaker, Farmers Wife, Mom, and coffee lover!

Her book “How Mommy Got her Groove Back” is about her journey of self-discovery, her liberation from the expectations of other and her confident redefinition of success.

Her mission is to inspire women who are juggling a career and a family to seek their groove and live B.I.G. regardless of where they live or what they do

Our topic today was Overcoming Perfectionism, and ironically, during this episode we had a MAJOR tech issue where I totally lost my audio, so I had to type my questions to Rebecca!! She was totally amazing and shows that you can’t control everything and you just have to keep going and do your best.

I think you are going to love this episode.

This is a topic that’s close to Rebecca’s heart, and in her words “I am standard, Type-A, control freak type of person. I also grew up in a very rural community (which I’m living back in now!) and literally had the eyes of everyone close to my family on me at all times. My fear of screwing up and looking stupid is practically innate and I became a “good girl” that never wanted to disappoint anyone.”

She shares her experience of the biggest run-in with perfectionism when she returned home and became a mom. She says “I read all the books, took all the classes. I was planning to be as close to a perfect mother as I could be. Then, reality hit.” I know I can relate to that!

Rebecca shares how she learned to “forgive” herself for hating the entire experience of breastfeeding. It was the most shame she’d ever felt about anything in her life because the decision didn’t affect just her. And ALL the doctors, nurses and even her friends told her it was best for her baby. It was as if only a crazy person wouldn’t stick it out.

That experience showed Rebecca how truly important it is to follow your own instincts because no one else is you.

Rebecca has been in “perfectionism recovery” ever since. (She has 3 beautiful kiddos now!)

She also shared how professionally being able to keep perfectionism in check is what made the publishing of her book possible along with her speaking career.

We both agree in our experiences, that perfectionism is a vicious cycle. The more we chase it, the more we believe that mistakes only arose because we weren’t quite good enough, causing us to chase perfectionism all the more. (It’s depressing to even read that, isn’t it?)

It also numbs us to the positive things in life, keeps us from learning and finally, it inhibits connection. And seriously, who wants to be perfect and alone?

Connect with Rebecca at:

Website: www.rebeccaundem.com.

Rebecca very generously created a special freebie (it’s a PDF of her companion workbook The Groove Finder’s Guide Series) just for my viewers! And it is amazing!

Find it here: www.rebeccaundem.com/realandraw

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RebeccaUndem/

 

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Today I was joined by Heather Clark from Home Office Detox who helps people clear their physical clutter, so they can clear their mental clutter. Heather believes that our external clutter is a reflection of our inner clutter, and she is on a mission to help declutter one home office at a time.

Today we talk about perfectionism and how we feel this pressure to have the perfect life. Life is Real and Raw and sometimes messy! I have to say I LOVED this talk with Heather so much and I know a lot of women will relate to what we are talking about, especially if you are a mum.

Perfectionism is about trying to earn approval and acceptance. We learn this from a young age We are raised being praised for achievement and performance (school grades, having to have perfect handwriting, perfect manners, the way we look, sports, for doing what we told, people pleasing). Then as we grow we adopt this belief that says “I am what I accomplish and how well I actually accomplish it”.

We break down what all this means and how it affects our lives (and not in a good way) and what we can do to break this negative pattern. Some of the topics covered are:

• How social media is an unrealistic portrayal of peoples lives, and the impact it is having on our feelings of “not being good enough”
• What do we need more of as leaders
• What we miss out on by trying to make things perfect
• How perfectionism stops us from being creative and sharing our work into the world
• Professionalism VS perfectionism
• “Perfectionism is just an excuse not to move forward”

And sooooo much more!

Connect with Heather at:
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/homeofficedetox/
Website: http://homeofficedetox.com/

 

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Today I was so grateful to have Heather Gray as my co-host on the Real and Raw Live show. We talked about all things Sabotage. She shared some truth of her own self sabotaging behavior around trying to lose weight. I loved this episode and Heather and I had a lot of fun recording it.

Some of the things we talked about

• What is Sabotage? And asking the question, is it really a thing?
• How we sabotage, and the excuses we tell ourselves.
• Heather shares how she sabotaged losing weight.
• Meeting goals comes with a pressure that most of us want to fun from.
• Heather tells us 2 ways we sabotage our selves
• Why it’s important to start listening to your thoughts.
• What is delayed gratification and how does it relate to Sabotage?
• We discuss what to do when you catch yourself in a sabotaging behavior or thought.
• Why it’s important to take small steps and set internal rewards for ourselves.
• The reason we sabotage ourselves is because we don’t want to hurt others and feel alone.
• What are the natural consequences of wanting to dream bigger?
• How setting boundaries is part of sabotage.
• Why it’s important to ask ourselves better Questions
• Heather gives us her opinion of motivational quotes.
• We both talk about our own sabotaging behaviours and when we have sabotaged our own work.
• Finally how to stop sabotage in its tracks.

Links mentioned: Ali Brown – Glambition Radio podcast episode 105

https://alibrown.com/2017/04/08/stop-the-online-insanity-glambition-radio-episode-105-with-ali-brown/

Connect with Heather Gray at:

Website: www.Choosetohaveitall.com

Facebook page: www.Facebook.com/ChooseToHaveItAll

Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/ChooseToHaveItAllCommunity

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My guest today is Megan Gibson of Mega Media Mentors, helping entrepreneurs build connections online through social media. We discussed authenticity and being yourself in business and online.

In this show you’ll learn:

•   How we can be connected online and offline without being sucked into the vortex of social media.
•   How we can use social media as a tool for real connection.
•   We talk about what happens when you compare yourself to others online and how it impacts your brand.
•   How you feel when you are NOT being authentic. When you try to be something that you are not, its hard work!
•   How social media can sometimes feel not good enough.
•   Ellen DeGeneres on being authentic. It takes courage to be vulnerable and be yourself.
•   Trends on social platforms: it’s all about storytelling and being able to share your story. People will buy from people they know, like and trust.
•   Being authentic means making it about your clients and giving them more value.
•   What stops people being authentic in business? Everything starts with being aware of knowing who you are how you feel about yourself.
•   The importance of being yourself, online and offline.

Ellen interview mentioned in the show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZyodLr-4oY