Hi my name is Sue and I am a recovering perfectionist. I say recovering because I don’t want to label myself as a perfectionist because that is setting me up to always have an excuse for why I procrastinate, and also I don’t like to label things.
The truth is I probably overthink things too much and try to get everything just right before I will start and I am trying to be too many things to too many people. Sound familiar?
Ok so lets back up a bit here. I wasn’t always like this you know! When I was younger I was quite shy and always did the “right” thing. My sisters called me a square, and we joke about it now and it is funny because I look back and I probably was. But that was my first label, Sue is so sensible, Sue always does the right thing! Sue is so confident! So you try and live up to those expectations, when they are not the real you. Yes I admit I did have a lot of common sense and I was relatively mature but confident was not something I felt I was. I hated being the centre of attention and would feel anxious going into a party or somewhere there were a lot of people I didn’t know. I’m not much for small talk, I like to really get to know someone.
Its funny how when your family perceive you to be a certain way you start trying to live up to it, and before you know it you are married with your own kids and seem to slip into that role every time the family gets together. Well I decided years ago to start working on myself and changing my beliefs and get my own set of values, not what my parents values were. Now don’t get me wrong I had a great childhood and there is nothing wrong with my parents values and beliefs, but they are THEIR values and beliefs.
Anyway, I digress! Labels can be very damaging and if we believe them then they can control our thoughts and therefore our actions, or lack thereof. So the reason I am sharing all this is that I have given up the notion that I am a perfectionist. Who am I then? Well when you strip away all the labels, mother, wife, sister, friend etc you are left with nothing but infinite possibility (thank you Carren Smith for that gem!) and you can just get on with life.
I am happy with who I am in this moment and that person is joyful, loving, kind and present. I love having a really good belly laugh (the type where you can barely breath), I love connecting with women, I love being outside in nature and I love inspiring other women to eat real food and feel fantastic.
So I have been procrastinating over starting this blog for way too long, trying to get it just right. So here it is my first blog post, finished and out there in cyber space!!
I am so excited to be able to share so much more on Health and Wellness and in particular nutrition! Thanks for reading.
Have a happy healthy day!
Infinite love and gratitude