Real and Raw Live – Real conversations around the emotional journey of being an entrepreneur. Today I am joined by Rebecca Rodine Undem and our topic is Overcoming Perfectionism. This was the perfect topic because my computer shut down and then my microphone wouldn’t work!! BUT Rebecca was amazing and she kept the show going. So just jump to around 19mins after it cuts out and we continue the conversation. Rebecca also has a gift for everyone too!! www.rebeccaundem.com/realandraw
Posted by Susan Deans on Wednesday, 5 July 2017
Today I spoke to Rebecca Undem: Author, Speaker, Farmers Wife, Mom, and coffee lover!
Her book “How Mommy Got her Groove Back” is about her journey of self-discovery, her liberation from the expectations of other and her confident redefinition of success.
Her mission is to inspire women who are juggling a career and a family to seek their groove and live B.I.G. regardless of where they live or what they do
Our topic today was Overcoming Perfectionism, and ironically, during this episode we had a MAJOR tech issue where I totally lost my audio, so I had to type my questions to Rebecca!! She was totally amazing and shows that you can’t control everything and you just have to keep going and do your best.
I think you are going to love this episode.
This is a topic that’s close to Rebecca’s heart, and in her words “I am standard, Type-A, control freak type of person. I also grew up in a very rural community (which I’m living back in now!) and literally had the eyes of everyone close to my family on me at all times. My fear of screwing up and looking stupid is practically innate and I became a “good girl” that never wanted to disappoint anyone.”
She shares her experience of the biggest run-in with perfectionism when she returned home and became a mom. She says “I read all the books, took all the classes. I was planning to be as close to a perfect mother as I could be. Then, reality hit.” I know I can relate to that!
Rebecca shares how she learned to “forgive” herself for hating the entire experience of breastfeeding. It was the most shame she’d ever felt about anything in her life because the decision didn’t affect just her. And ALL the doctors, nurses and even her friends told her it was best for her baby. It was as if only a crazy person wouldn’t stick it out.
That experience showed Rebecca how truly important it is to follow your own instincts because no one else is you.
Rebecca has been in “perfectionism recovery” ever since. (She has 3 beautiful kiddos now!)
She also shared how professionally being able to keep perfectionism in check is what made the publishing of her book possible along with her speaking career.
We both agree in our experiences, that perfectionism is a vicious cycle. The more we chase it, the more we believe that mistakes only arose because we weren’t quite good enough, causing us to chase perfectionism all the more. (It’s depressing to even read that, isn’t it?)
It also numbs us to the positive things in life, keeps us from learning and finally, it inhibits connection. And seriously, who wants to be perfect and alone?
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Rebecca very generously created a special freebie (it’s a PDF of her companion workbook The Groove Finder’s Guide Series) just for my viewers! And it is amazing!
Find it here: www.rebeccaundem.com/realandraw